Crossing Over with Homeopathy
Have you had a loved one that has crossed over? Sometimes it happens, you’re at the hospital and know the time is close and when you and the rest of the family finally go down to the cafeteria for food, they pass while you were gone.
Nine months ago, I lost my mom. After an illness and injury, she crossed over at my home. It wasn’t something we planned it evolved and just happened. We were lucky in that she told us she was ready to transition to the other side.
Although over the years, I have helped others through this process, I’m sharing my story here. If this is not the time for you to read this, then save this blog and come back to it when you are ready.
My two brothers and I have had the privileged of being with my mom when she chose to crossover
My mom crossed over on March 2, 2020, by her choosing. She would have been 83 in June, she was still working as a home care aid and doing light housekeeping. One of the best parts of her job was talking to the elderly; keeping them and herself company during the day. She was number 16 out of 17 children, you read that correctly, and was the last of her sibling’s to crossover.
My mom fell twice in December 2019, first time standing on a step stool putting up a picture and a few weeks later slipped on the back-door rug. Both times, I had her taking homeopathic remedies for her back-injury pain. After the second fall the homeopathic remedies were not working as well, even after I adjusted the remedy dose and switched to other homeopathic remedies. That is when, I suspected something was wrong and I suggested that she see a doctor. The x-ray and CT Scan showed that 2 of her thoracic vertebras were lacy (osteoporosis). The doctor suggested to either fill in the 2 individual lacy vertebras with cement or wear a back brace. My mom chose to have the back procedure done and then went into the rehab facility for a couple of weeks of physical therapy.
She felt very good after the bone cementing procedure. This was great because my mom would, from time to time, have a little back pain here and there, when she did too much. My mom was use to work; she was a carpenter alongside my dad and yes, she swung a hammer for almost 50 years. She knew which homeopathic remedies to take when her back ached from overdoing it. My mom was pain free for a week and was excelling greatly with her physical therapy. The physical therapist said that she may even go home sooner since she was doing so well. This was fantastic for being 82-years-old.
A few days later, at the rehab one of the aids was helping my mom get out of the wheelchair to use the toilet. In doing so, she hurt my mom’s back, causing my mom to have severe back pain. At this point, my mom’s physical therapy advancement came to a halt, until the doctor was able to examine her again. The doctor’s plan was to repeat the cementing procedure at the location the aid hurt her back.
While waiting for the second back procedure to take place, my mom had 3 instances of elder abuse at the rehab. The day after the third incidence, my brother and I, signed my mom out of the rehab. I brought my mom to my home to take care of her 24/7 with the help of my family a couple of days a week. She also had nurses coming in to check on her and do physical therapy while waiting for the second back procedure.
After the incident with the aid helping my mom in the bathroom, my mom was not able to use the toilet, and had to be in diapers. How humiliating it must have been for my mom. One of the elder abuse incidences, she sat in her feces for 3-4 hours at a time or longer before one of the aids would change her. This caused a huge open, painful wound on my mom’s buttocks.
At home, I would clean her up after she moved her bowels or peed, with the help of my husband. And I would apply a water solution of Echinacea tincture on the wound and then applied Calendula 30c (in water) and the next changing applied Hypericum 30c (in water); alternating the Calendula solution and the Hypericum solution after each changing. The nurses were amazed how well my mom’s open wound was healing and how she did not have one bedsore on her body.
At some point, after 2 weeks of us taking care of my mom, I sensed a change in her; she didn’t like to be as she would say “a burden to us”. Even though we told her many times this was temporary and it is just where she was at this time until her health improved. We told her there would be a time when she would be able to do more for herself.
During this period, my mom was functioning like everyone else (i.e., fed herself, talking). She just couldn’t walk as well as she did after the first back procedure. She was in a wheelchair when she was out of bed because she was not strong enough and in too much pain to walk long or stand. My family and I started seeing glimpses of her shifting her desire from wanting to continue to improve her health and she was starting to fade. Her appetite started to decline and she started dosing off to sleep more often during the day.
One Saturday morning; my brother came into my office, after I had just finished working with client calls, and told me “mom said “she had enough and wanted to lay down”. I said to her “are you tired of sitting in the wheelchair and want to lay down”. “No,” she stated “I am ready to move on “to die” Ok, I replied. She asked when my daughter and son were coming over?” I told her this afternoon. She replied “I don’t know if I can hang on that long”. She wanted to say her good-byes to everyone. I quickly called my kids asking them to come over sooner than they had planned. My mom had me call her close friends for her to say her good-byes. The events of the day all happened so quickly, once she made her mind up to move on. The rest of that day my family and I gathered around my mom saying our good-byes. You could see my mom was a little sleepier than usual and each day there after she spent her time in bed and did not have much of an interest in food.
It wasn’t until Monday morning, she said to me “I can’t believe I am still here.” I said “well mom, we are just as shocked as you are;” she just chuckled. The next couple of days she was starting to see a few of her brothers and sister, whom have already crossed over. At one point she asked me ‘How do I let go and move on?” I told her to keep looking for the white light and follow the rainbow, then you will see your mom, my dad and her other siblings; they will all be there to greet you and help you cross over into their world.
Homeopathic Remedies to Help with Crossing Over
I also gave her 4 homeopathic remedies: Arsenicum Album, Carbo Vegetabilis, Natrum Muriaticum, and Pulsatilla to help her crossover. At that point, I switched from playing country music to playing her gospel music all day long. Sometimes she would sing along in her now soft voice.
- Arsenicum Album 30c – Helps to let go of the fear of leaving the body and crossing over; especially when someone is taking medications (i.e., morphine).
- Carbo Vegetabilis 30c – Is given to help with the breathing (last breath) and for when the body is not ready to go, it will bring them back, by revitalizing them.
- Natrum Muriaticum 200c – Helps them to let go and not hang on for us who are still here.
- Pulsatilla 200c – Is for the sadness, they may be feeling in leaving us or for them not to feel they are abandoning us.
When and How Do You Administer the Homeopathic Remedies for Crossing Over?
You want to give all 4 of these homeopathic remedies when your loved one (people or pet) is ready to crossover or is having a problem crossing over.
- You will see them hanging on for days, like they are waiting for something to happen, someone to visit them.
- They tightly close their mouth and refuse food, drink and or take their medications.
Animals can have a hard time crossing over too, with the same symptoms and feelings we have as people. And you would use all 4 homeopathic remedies for your pets too.
- Place all 4 homeopathic remedies in an ounce of water in a disposable cup (plastic or paper).
- Administer 1 dose either by giving them a sip or by pouring some of the remedy solution on a paper towel. Then swipe on their body (face, arm) one time.
What to Expect After Administering the 4 Homeopathic Remedies for Crossing Over
I have had clients tell me that their loved one took their last breath within minutes after taking the homeopathic remedies. That’s because they were ready to move on, just couldn’t let go to do so.
Sometimes a loved one will still take a few days to slowly transition into crossing over. The homeopathic remedies will not make someone cross over before their time. The remedy helps them to let go and when they are ready, they crossover on their own.
It was amazing from that Saturday when my mom decided it was her time to crossover, all of her back pain was completely gone. I stopped giving her all of the homeopathic remedies for pain at that point. And she was completely off all medications while she was at my house.
Those final days after her decision was a beautiful journey that my family and I got to experience with my mom.
If You Get to Spend Those Final Moments Together
If you too, have a chance to experience this beautiful journey, I suggest that you spend time talking about the good old times with your loved one and clear the air with anything that needs to be said; as we did with my mom. We all laughed and cried together talking about the life we shared with her.
I remember this one night my one brother and I were reminiscing with my mom on how we all used to roller skate in the house and play tag running around the house chasing each other. And my brother mentioned a few other things that we used to do. My mom said “I don’t remember that”. And he would tell her something else and she would say “I don’t remember that either”. So, finally my brother said “well mom, what do you remember?” And we would talk about what she remembered.
Play music that they love listening to or calming meditative music (i.e., environmental sound like ocean, sea gulls). Each day my mom slept more and more and was only drinking water and in the end ice chips. Her last day with us, she slept all day and we knew it was going to be any time now. That night around 7 PM, I heard her call out “mom, mom. In looking back, we realized her mom was coming to greet her.
It was 3:20 AM Monday morning when I woke up and felt my mom’s presence in my room. I was too scared to get out of bed and check to see if she was still with us. I talked myself into going back to sleep and checked on her around 6 AM to find that she had crossed over. I called Hospice to let them know she had passed. When they arrived to confirm the death, I asked the Hospice nurse when she thought my mom passed. She said about 3-4 hours ago. Which is around the time my mom’s presence came into my room. My husband said he felt my mom’s presence around the same time too. It’s interesting, you know your loved one will be passing soon, but yet, you are too scared to check on them.
We Called in Hospice
The Saturday, when my mom told us, her time was up, my brother’s and I were talking about what do we do when she passes? Do we call 911 and tell them it’s not an emergency? Are they going to believe that she passed on her own?
My husband called the local coroner and asked what do we do? The local coroner told us to contact Hospice, since the regular nurses had stopped coming, he suggested we have the Hospice nurse come in and over see her. If we did not, then procedure would dictate that the police, rescue squad and possibly others would come to my house for hours questioning my family members, to see if there was any foul play.
When I contacted Hospice, I shared with them my concerns of them wanting to drug her up. My mom was still able to carry on a conversation for the most part and the Hospice nursed asked her if she wanted any medications for any pain. My mom told them that she was not in any pain and did not want any medications.
The Hospice nurse did suggest and made arrangements for me to pick up a morphine kit at the pharmacy, which I did not get. The Hospice nurse said, in case my mom had problems with breathing or anything else, I would give her a dose of morphine. I knew, that if my mom had any breathing problems, I was going to give her Arsenicum Album and Carbo Vegetabilis or any other homeopathic remedy that she needed at the time. And that’s the way, my mom would have wanted it.
Homeopathic Remedies I Used to Help Support Me Through this Process
Even though my family and I knew, and understood my mom’s decision to cross over, we still felt sad about her leaving. I gave each family member a dose of Pulsatilla for the sadness we were feeling.
I’ve listed other homeopathic remedies that may be selected according to how you or a loved one is feeling. Administer one dose (dry pellets) of the selected remedy and repeat when the symptoms return. You may need to select another remedy if you or a loved one is experiencing other symptoms (emotions) during this process.
- Aconite Napellus 30c and Gelsemium 200c – Initial effects of the news (bad news) your loved one will be or did cross over.
- Pulsatilla 200c – For feeling sadness or abandonment of them leaving you.
- Ignatia Amara 30c – Shock, grief, hysterically crying or sobbing.
- Natrum Muriaticum 200c – Feeling depressed, can’t stop thinking about your loved one leaving you (dwelling).
I hope, if you ever have a loved one whether it be a person or a pet that is getting ready to transition, that you have as beautiful of an experience as my family and I did. After all, it is part of the “cycle of life”. While the loss can be painful for us the healing and ability to support them through and with love is something that I will always cherish.